What Are The Best Tinder Pickup Lines For Men To Use?
And If There Are Good Tinder Pickup Lines Why Do So Many Men Struggle With Tinder?
Especially When I Am Able To Get 95% Of Women To Respond To My Opening Message…
The Answer Is Because MOST MEN Don’t Understand How To Craft An Opening Message For Tinder
So they end up:
- Playing it safe with something boring like “Hey” or “What are you up to?”
- Sending something vile like “Wanna fuck?”
- Sending one of the tinder pickup lines they found online that the girl has already received hundreds of times
The results from the above are usually pitiful (at best) and most men quickly become very frustrated, lose patience and quit Tinder altogether claiming that “All the girls on there are bitches” or “It only works if you’re good looking”
So how is it that a bald, skinny, average looking guy like myself has been able to get as high as a 95% response rate to my opening messages?
(An actual response from one of my Tinder messages)
Let me share with you the secret to Tinder pickup lines so you too can craft your own unique, high converting opening message and start enjoying the wonderful women of Tinder for yourself
Let’s start by understanding WHY women are so picky about good Tinder pickup lines
You may not realise it, but most men aren’t selective at all when it comes to Tinder (or dating in general). Are you guilty of this?
A large amount of men choose to match with every girl without even looking at the girls’ profiles claiming “It takes too much time to look at them all. I’ll just look when I get a match”
For any women reading, this accounts for all of those guys you match with that don’t message you. Once you match these men, they read your profile and if they decide they don’t like you, they won’t message you
Because of the low standards of men, an attractive woman can essentially match with any man that comes up on her screen instantly
This means she will often get 10, 30, 50 or more matches per day!
Most of those matches will have no idea how to use Tinder and send the useless Tinder pickup lines from the list above which usually earns them instant dismissal
You can see from this high number of matches why women are so selective about the Tinder pickup lines they respond to AND why it’s SOOO important for you to stand out with an amazing Tinder pickup line
So let’s now look at the formula I used to craft mine and my client’s high converting Tinder pickup lines
Rule 1 – Open your Tinder messaging by using the girl’s name
This sounds too simple to be important but let’s think about it. People who are likely to address you by name are usually friends, family or work colleagues. All people who you are familiar with
Addressing her by her name builds rapport and makes her start to feel more comfortable with you straight away as you talk with her as though you know her well
Rule 2 – Keep your opening Tinder messages Simple, Light & Fun
Too many men take Tinder WAY too seriously. They send women opening messages that are heavy and serious. It’s too intense for a girl who has never met you before and doesn’t want to know your life story
It’s important to have a fun approach to Tinder that is almost laughing at the whole concept of it. I would suggest to write something very light, silly, short and sweet.
E.g. “Seeking human females for coffee shop research project. Successful applicants will be required to ingest coffee and make conversation. Apply within.”
(I literally just made the above up on the spot. Just take note of the silly, light-hearted tone and use your own personality, humour and interests to come up with something unique – and remember this article is likely to be viewed by THOUSANDS of men, so the above line could wear thin very quickly. Make up your own)
Rule 3 – Do not ask any questions in your opening Tinder message
Asking questions in your opening Tinder message makes you appear boring and needy
If you open with “What are you up to?” for example, you are basically communicating to her “I’m bored, I am not interesting, I am not doing anything fun, I am too lazy to be creative and set myself apart from the hundreds of other men who have messaged you. You should assume I am a loser and ignore me”
Sound harsh? Sometimes the truth is cruel
Avoid asking questions. If you want to get information from her, you can do this by changing the question into a statement
Eg: “What are you up to?” becomes “I bet you’re lying on your bed wishing all of the Tinder guys were as awesome as me”
Rule 4 – Your opening Tinder message shouldn’t require a response
For the reasons stated above, and in the interests of not being a value-sucking, boring leach, we want to send an opening Tinder message that doesn’t require her to respond for it to be valid
Often girls are inundated with men matching and messaging them on Tinder so they are very unlikely to want to answer the same, lame question 100 times a night. If you send her “So what are you up to?” and she doesn’t respond, it really leaves you little else to follow up with without appearing needy and like you have no substance
Sending a message that stands up on its own merit regardless of whether she responds or not is a great way to combat this
Eg: If you sent her “Hey Sarah. Because I always think of the important things in life, I was wondering if in the future they will have a version of Tinder for pets”, it doesn’t matter if she responds or not, and it’s also something a bit more interesting and a point of difference that demonstrates ‘you’re not like all the other guys’
Rule 5 – Sign off by using your name
Even though your name is on your profile, it’s a nice touch to make an introduction to the girl using your name so she feels a little more like she’s met you. She’s also a lot more likely to remember your name this way
It also shows good social skills and is more genuine. A little effort goes a long way
Eg: Sign off with something like “Nice to meet you. Ben”
For me to get to a 95% response rate of my Tinder pickup lines there was a process of refining and testing required, but I had to figure out all of the rules above the hard way and didn’t have articles and videos like these to help me
Remember to get my full Tinder & Online Dating Success System and learn how to TRIPLE the number of girls you Bait, Attract & Meet from Tinder, AND make sure you also follow the “3 Step First Date Strategy” in my book, The Natural Attraction Blueprint, to make sure your dates are a success and don’t go to waste.
Take a little time to get good Tinder pickup lines up and running they will serve you well
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