Let’s talk about the Top 5 Biggest Dating Mistakes that Men Make.
It’s so important that you know this because if you don’t know it you’re:
- Going to mess up dates
- End up in the ‘Friend-zone”
- You’re going to go on one date with a girl and you’re never going to see her again
- You are going to waste SO MANY opportunities with amazing girls
So you need to know about the 5 biggest dating mistakes men make so you can:
- Go on a date with a girl and have an amazing date
- Make girls want to see you again for more dates
- Make girls attracted to you and want to be more than friends with you
- Make girls your girlfriend and beyond, whatever you want to have happen!
Mistake #1 – So many guys are actually doing the wrong kind of date.
So many guys they see a movie and they see a guy and a girl sitting at table opposite each other having a really serious, formal expensive dinner to and they think that must be the way you date.
ow that that’s great for a movie plot line and even for a girl you’ve been seeing for a while or your girlfriend, but in reality if you want to have an amazing date then you’re going to do want to do something really low-key initially for the first date.
The first date doesn’t need to be this really expensive, serious, formal dinner occasion.
Most of the time the above is not going to help you. It’s going to make the girl nervous to show up. She’s going to think “I need to get my makeup done, and my hair. I might need to buy a new outfit. Who’s going to pay? Will he be expecting something in return?” and this kind of thing.
It’s too formal, it’s too serious and most girls are going to be less likely come on that kind of a first date.
Instead set up something more relaxed like go meet her for coffee, go for a walk somewhere at a market that is going on, get a drink at a nice bar etc.
Go and do something really low key and casual, not something hugely expensive and formal.
It will make her feel more relaxed and actually more inclined to show up AND you’re going to feel more relaxed as well about the occasion.
That’s definitely what I recommend to overcome the first mistake.
Mistake #2 – Guys take dating WAY too seriously.
They get on a date with the girl and think “I have to get everything right because otherwise she’s not gonna see me again and she’s going to think I’m a loser” and this kind of thing. You need to be more relaxed.
You need to have an approach to dating that it’s for fun. Know that if you’re relaxed it’ll allow her to relax. If you’re nervous she’s going to feel it and it’s just going to make her nervous and uncomfortable with you too. Watch our female psychology video to work out why this last point is so important too.
So give yourself a break. Maybe take a deep breath or two if that’s what you need as well.
Have fun. I don’t want to go on a date if it’s not fun and I don’t think that you would either.
So make it fun. Make it relaxed and just be calm. She’s also going to feel a lot more comfortable around you when you’re feeling that way.
Mistake #3 – So many guys are trying to impress girls.
Girls did not want you to try an impress them.
You know that so many girls say that the most attractive thing is when a guy is himself and when he’s confident.
When you go on dates just drop any kind trying to impress her.
Don’t tell you that you earn a lot of money. Don’t try and show her your expensive watch. Don’t tell her about your flashy car.
Girls have heard all this before.
Trying to impress girls actually has the reverse effect. She will start to wonder why you are so determined to persuade her that you are a great guy, or that you’re wealthy etc.
Think about it. A movie star generally doesn’t need to go around telling people about their wealth and fame. It’s just a given. On the other hand, someone who isn’t confident, isn’t sure of themselves, isn’t sure they will be accepted will often try really hard to impress others to gain acceptance.
This is a very ugly and needy personality trait that if you’ve experienced from someone else before, you will agree that it’s the last thing you would want to do with a girl you just met on a date.
Mistake #4 – So many guys are talking about really boring stuff on dates and it’s just not fun.
You need to structure opportunities on the date to have some banter, some fun and playful back and forth and also introduce some flirty topics.
Not sleazy or gross topics.
Just some fun, flirty misinterpretations of things that can get onto some more risqué topics.
We have some other really great videos and resources for you to check out if you want to know more about how to do that really well.
It’s really REALLY important that you have a fun date. Get onto some fun topics, mess around a bit and not be too serious about life and avoid the boring interview type dates because that’s what most guys are doing and it just does not work!
Mistake #5 – So many guys end dates way too early.
For example, if you go on a date with a girl for coffee, that could maybe only take half an hour or so.
Don’t just say “We finished our coffee. Uh, guess I’ll see you later”, say goodbye, leave, and then maybe never see her again.
You’ve gone to the trouble to get her there, and she’s made the effort to come and meet you. You must keep her with you as long as possible.
The more time you to spend together the more time to get more comfortable with each other, build a connection and get to know each other so it’s really important that you extend the date as long as possible.
For example on a coffee date, when you finish your coffee then say “Hey, look we’re in a nice part of town here, let’s go for a walk around and see what’s happening”.
If she has time and is enjoying your company, she’ll happily spend more time with you get to know you better.
You can go check out some stuff then maybe there’s a nice bar or something nearby and you can say “Hey, let’s shoot in here and grab a quick drink” and if she’s still having a good time she’ll probably say “Ok”.
It’s just about spending more time with her, having more experiences together, getting more comfortable with each other and there’s way more chance that she’s going to want to see you again if you build a much stronger connection on the first date.
So many guys don’t take the opportunity to maybe hold hands, kiss a girl etc on a date when the opportunity presents itself.
Often the opportunity is there but so many guys are just too afraid. They don’t want to try for it because they are worried that the girl might say ‘no’ or ‘reject’ them.
Remember, if you don’t take opportunities like that, sure you’re never going to get told ‘no’ or ‘rejected’, however you’re also never going to kiss any girls or get a girlfriend.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” – Wayne Gretzky
Some girls are more patient than others although most girls find it attractive when a guy is prepared to take opportunities and not doing so is often seen as weak, un-confident, and ultimately less attractive.
If you see the opportunity, take it. It’s the only way to have a chance to move things forward.
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