Did You That Approaching Dating And Relationships From Abundance Mindset v Scarcity Mindset Completely Affects Your Success?
Do You Ever Wish You Had More Choice In The Women You Date?
Join Ben Alexander from The Legends Academy as he talks about a dating experience in Sydney Australia which highlighted the importance of having an abundance mindset and not a scarcity mindset
Learn how scarcity plays a large role in the high divorce rates and dysfunctional relationships in today’s modern society, and how you can avoid some of the pitfalls of dating and ensure you are on the road to relationship success
Knowing about the difference between Abundance Mindset v Scarcity Mindset is the basis for your success in dating and relationships (or your lack of success)
At any given moment we are making choices and living our lives according to our perception. Perception is everything. For example, someone who perceives the world to be a terrible place will have a completely different experience than if they perceived the world to be a wonderful place
The same applies to our perception when it comes to dating, and this is where and Abundance Mindset v Scarcity Mindset is affecting our dating lives
To perceive abundance in dating is to believe that you are in the position of being able to choose who it is that you would like to have a relationship with
You believe that you do not have to settle for someone less than your requirements. You believe that there are lots of people in the world that meet your standards. You are happy to let go of people you encounter that do not meet your standards for the above reasons. To have an ‘abundance mindset’ means that you will not settle for someone who isn’t suitable therefore meaning you are much more likely to have a happy and successful relationship and are far less likely to have a dysfunctional or failed relationship
To have a ‘scarcity mindset’ in dating is to believe that you are in the position of being limited to settle for whoever it is that will have you. People stuck in scarcity often settle for less than they want or deserve because they don’t believe they are able to attract the quality of partner that they truly want. They also often believe that there simply aren’t many people out there that they could be truly happy with
Sadly most people do not choose Abundance. To be fair, most people don’t know they have a choice. Also, most people don’t believe it’s as simple as deciding because their past experiences tell a story of not having the choice they want
Dysfunctional or mediocre relationships make up the vast majority. We are even socially conditioned through movies, soap operas and magazines etc to believe that most relationships are either mediocre or dysfunctional. Think about it and you will surely have to agree. Usually there’s the old nagging and groaning couple. The jealous couple. The couple who are always fighting. Divorced or divorcing couples
This conditioning makes it easier for us to accept mediocrity and dysfunction because we believe it to be normal and acceptable
How do you avoid this mediocrity, dysfunction and scarcity?
Most people just chase new skills or information and may see small improvements, but then they wonder why old behaviours and results creep back in. To do the above is like changing the water in a fish bowl, but you don’t clean the glass of the bowl to remove the dirt. As soon as you pour in the new water, it immediately becomes soured by the old dirt
So what’s the solution then? Buy some glass cleaner? Almost haha…
Well it all starts with your beliefs about the world and about yourself
Your beliefs determine your entire perception, and therefore your actions, and therefore your results. Whatever results you get serve to reinforce your initial beliefs
If your beliefs are unhelpful, you will take actions that reflect those unhelpful beliefs, and you will most likely get results that you don’t want, and your unhelpful beliefs will be reinforced
This looks like:
- I don’t believe I am good at talking to people I am attracted to – Belief
- When I go to talk to someone I am attracted to, I am nervous – Actions
- As a result I make the other person uncomfortable, and they aren’t interested in me – Results
- SEE!!! I told you I’m not good at talking to people I’m attracted to! – Belief Reinforced
You spiral down and down in this pattern as it’s reinforced
If you change your beliefs to helpful beliefs, you will take more effective actions, and your results will immediately be inline with what you want
This looks like:
- I believe I am good at talking to people I am attracted to – Belief
- When I go to talk to someone I am attracted to, I am confident – Actions
- As a result I make the other person comfortable and attracted to me – Results
- SEE!!! I told you I’m good at talking to people I’m attracted to! – Belief Reinforced
So you start spiraling UP instead of spiraling DOWN
Contact us today if you would like to learn about how we can help you to break the cycle of scarcity and get you spiraling UP into the success and abundance you deserve