This article is for men who want to give online dating a try during lockdown (or whenever).
I decided to write this article because I keep seeing a very common mistake that guys make with online dating. It’s arguably the most important step that they are getting wrong, too!
Most guys give online dating a try at some point. Using online dating during lockdown is a particularly good opportunity to meet women who might not usually have the time or inclination to use online dating, but they’ve decided to finally give it a go out of boredom. In my experience as a dating coach for men, very few men ever seem to master online dating. What this means is they experience problems such as:
- They won’t match many (or any) women through online dating (or at least not the ones they want).
- If they do match women, they don’t get past the first few messages and the women stop messaging back.
- They end up with a useless set of matches, no dates, and no relationship opportunities.
- They get blown away by the fierce competition in the crowded online dating scene.
- Essentially they are wasting so many opportunities!
Does this sound familiar? :/
I know this because we teach our Legends Academy clients our Legendary Texting & Online Dating System as part of our full training, and also offer it as a separate training, and it’s been great to see so many of our clients having success with online dating while they’ve been locked down.
But some of our clients still make common mistakes when they are first learning our system. So let me see if I can help you avoid some of the biggest online dating mistakes with this article.
Our Texting & Online Dating System has 3 steps. We call it our ‘BAM System’, which stands for:
- Bait – How to create a profile that gets lots of matches.
- Attract – How to make an opening message that gets a response and have a fun and flirty conversation.
- Meet – How to set up a date with the women you like.
There’s obviously a lot more to it than that, but overall, the principle is pretty simple, right?
So as you can see, the first part of the BAM System is to create a great profile (bait), that makes women want to match with you so you can have a conversation and see where it leads. I’m going to tell you in this article how to avoid one of the biggest mistakes guys make in their online dating profiles.
If you don’t get this part right, nothing else matters, because you won’t have any women to chat to. From speaking to thousands of guys about dating, I get the impression that this is MOST men’s experience of online dating. To the point that many of them think that online dating is a pointless exercise and a waste of time. This upsets me. Because usually it’s just because they’ve never been shown how to use online dating properly. In my experience, once someone learns how to use online dating properly, they start to get much better results. To the point where they start having these sort of problems…
So what’s the common mistake that guys are making in their online dating profile?
So my main point is (and it frustrates me how many times I need to say this haha) that LESS is MORE when it comes to online dating profiles!
NOW…SOME dating apps/websites REQUIRE you to fill out compulsory fields. But only do this to the ABSOLUTE MINIMUM extent that you need to.