This article is for men who want to give online dating a try during lockdown (or whenever).

I decided to write this article because I keep seeing a very common mistake that guys make with online dating. It’s arguably the most important step that they are getting wrong, too!

Most guys give online dating a try at some point. Using online dating during lockdown is a particularly good opportunity to meet women who might not usually have the time or inclination to use online dating, but they’ve decided to finally give it a go out of boredom. In my experience as a dating coach for men, very few men ever seem to master online dating. What this means is they experience problems such as:

They won’t match many (or any) women through online dating (or at least not the ones they want).
If they do match women, they don’t get past the first few messages and the women stop messaging back.
They end up with a useless set of matches, no dates, and no relationship opportunities.
They get blown away by the fierce competition in the crowded online dating scene.
Essentially they are wasting so many opportunities!

Does this sound familiar? :/

I know this because we teach our Legends Academy clients our Legendary Texting & Online Dating System as part of our full training, and also offer it as a separate training, and it’s been great to see so many of our clients having success with online dating while they’ve been locked down.

A review from a client using the texting & online dating training inside the Natural Attraction Blueprint Online Training from The Legends Academy

A review from a client using the Legendary Texting & Online Dating Training inside the Natural Attraction Blueprint Online Training from The Legends Academy

But some of our clients still make common mistakes when they are first learning our system. So let me see if I can help you avoid some of the biggest online dating mistakes with this article.

Our Texting & Online Dating System has 3 steps. We call it our ‘BAM System’, which stands for:

Bait – How to create a profile that gets lots of matches.
Attract – How to make an opening message that gets a response and have a fun and flirty conversation.
Meet – How to set up a date with the women you like.

There’s obviously a lot more to it than that, but overall, the principle is pretty simple, right?

So as you can see, the first part of the BAM System is to create a great profile (bait), that makes women want to match with you so you can have a conversation and see where it leads. I’m going to tell you in this article how to avoid one of the biggest mistakes guys make in their online dating profiles.

If you don’t get this part right, nothing else matters, because you won’t have any women to chat to. From speaking to thousands of guys about dating, I get the impression that this is MOST men’s experience of online dating. To the point that many of them think that online dating is a pointless exercise and a waste of time. This upsets me. Because usually it’s just because they’ve never been shown how to use online dating properly. In my experience, once someone learns how to use online dating properly, they start to get much better results. To the point where they start having these sort of problems…

Results from using The Legendary Texting & Online Dating Program from The Legends Academy

So what’s the common mistake that guys are making in their online dating profile?

As you know, every online dating app/platform/website is different. BUT, what is the same, is that women are on the other side. And that means the ‘rules’ (what works best, MOST of the time…) are the same.

I’ve found that most guys put FAR too much information (AND the wrong information) on their online dating profiles. Sometimes “Less is more”. Let me elaborate…

I always find it is best to be as vague as possible in your online dating profile. Meaning less information is better. Why?

By putting less information, it allows women to make up their own mind about you, and to rationalise and assign their own assumptions about you. Putting less information also gives women less information to talk themselves out of communicating with you.

Here’s an example:

Let’s say your profile says that you’re an ‘engineer’. We all know “stereotypes exist for a reason”. Most women will probably assume you are a stereotypical engineer, and perhaps will assign the personality traits of you being a nerdy, boring guy without much personality or social skills etc.

As such, women will possibly pre-judge you accordingly and not even bother matching you or having any communication with you.

Now those exact SAME women, had they NOT known your career, may have actually matched you, started chatting with you, realised you are fun and attractive, and your career would ultimately be a non-issue.

IMPORTANT: I am not saying there is anything wrong with your career if you’re an engineer or anything else. I am just choosing ONE career path from among thousands to use as an example of how women will likely pre-judge your profile when they look at it, to demonstrate why it’s better to be vague in your online dating profile, so that:

– You are more mysterious, which makes women more curious

– There is less info to pre-judge you by, and therefore, less info to dismiss you by, BEFORE they’ve even matched you and chatted with you and realised you’re interesting, attractive etc

– You’re not giving too much info up front so that you have less to chat about later on, because chatting lets you convey your personality in an attrative way

So my main point is (and it frustrates me how many times I need to say this haha) that LESS is MORE when it comes to online dating profiles!

NOW…SOME dating apps/websites REQUIRE you to fill out compulsory fields. But only do this to the ABSOLUTE MINIMUM extent that you need to.

So if you don’t need to include your school info, university, favourite food, whether you prefer cats or dogs, or any other stuff, get rid of it!

The next big tip is for any information you must include, fill out that information in a fun way, eg:

Instead of ‘data analyst’ for your career, write something fun like ‘you probably won’t understand haha’, or ‘figuring out difficult stuff’, or ‘Excel ninja’, etc etc.

The above, by the way, is one of the many things we teach our clients to do in REAL LIFE conversations with women. That is, to convey yourself in a fun, flirty and playful way…so why would you not do this through online dating, too?

Filling out your profile in a boring way conveys that you are probably boring to chat to, right?

So that’s it for this article and I hope this was useful, BUT, if you’d like to see more articles and videos from The Legends Academy on how to be successful in online dating (plus loads of other tips, videos and articles on other dating topics), you can see these on our Dating Tips page here.

You may also like to learn more about our Legendary Texting & Online Dating Training Program here.

For any other enquiries, please feel free to Contact Us and we’d be happy to see if/how we can help you.

Thanks for reading, and stay Legendary out there.

Ben Alexander