Are you a man in Auckland who gets nervous or uncomfortable in social and dating situations?
Does fear of ‘rejection’ or not knowing what to say hold you back in your dating life? Maybe you just feel out of touch with the modern dating scene and want the confidence and social skills to have the social life and dating and relationship opportunities you really want?
Watch some of our live TV interview to learn more:
If you can relate to any (or all) of the above…keep reading because YOU’RE NOT ALONE! In fact, MOST men have experienced a lack of confidence in their career, social or dating situations (I used to be this way too!).
The reason for this is that us men are simply NOT TAUGHT how to be naturally confident in social and dating situations! Crazy huh?!? When you add in bad past-experiences to this lack of education…the result is a generation of men who feel frustrated and inadequate for no good reason.
The GOOD NEWS is that this is 100% fixable!!! 🙂 🙂
With the right mindset, self-confidence, knowledge of female psychology and communication skills, you can actually LEARN how to get REAL and lasting confidence for social, business and dating situations! Sounds good, right? Contact us now for a free, confidential consultation.
Here’s one of my Auckland videos:
Why online advice alone isn’t enough to avoid rejection and become dating & relationship savvy
I remember when I first decided I needed to take some action to get my non-existent romantic life happening back in early 2008. The first place people look for information these days is online and I did just that. I searched everything from ‘how to avoid rejection’ to ‘what to say to women’ to ‘how to pickup girls’ and the list goes on.
If you’ve ever searched for these things (or anything similar) online, I’m sure you’ll agree that you get literally millions of search results! The problem with this is, in addition to all of the useless nonsense, manipulative tactics of PUAs (pickup artists) and marketing hype that comes up, even a lot of the good advice seems to contradict itself.
How do you know what dating and relationship advice, or which mentors, coaches, instructors, gurus actually have strategies that work, and what stuff is just useless?
Although I’ll admit I have learned a lot from a few good online sources for dating tips over the years, I’ve also spent thousands of dollars on useless products and programs that over-promised and under-delivered. Because of this, I spent years going down the wrong track and had to spend even more time and money to un-learn my bad habits and learn the correct methodology and philosophy.
The problem with online advice is it’s designed to be general so it applies to everyone. However I’m sure you’ll agree that one size doesn’t fit all, and your unique situation is different from the next guy. Because of this, the best option is always tailored advice that applies to your specific situation.
In addition to this, you should also seek out coaching or mentorship that has a two way flow where you can ask questions when you get stuck and get timely advice to get you back on track. This approach to dating education makes sure you get what you need, when you need it, so you move forward as quickly as possible to the successful outcomes you desire, with the least amount of frustration and rejection. Contact us now to find out if one of our coaching programs is right for you.
The difference between a dating coach who teaches natural attraction and a pickup instructor (PUA or ‘pickup artist’)
The term PUA (pickup artist) came to fame (or notoriety) in about 2005 when it entered popular culture. Pickup artistry was actually the first philosophy I researched and experimented with when I first attempted to get my sex life to materialise back in 2008. I would study and follow all of the popular pickup gurus of the day trying to find new tricks or techniques that would skyrocket my success.
After about a year and a half of practicing pickup artistry I ran into some problems that caused me to take a completely different approach to learning how to meet women. What I had found was the pickup techniques I was using hadn’t actually fixed the core issues responsible for my lack of confidence or lack of dating success. All they had done was help me build a fake persona over the top of my insecurities, and led me to use manipulative tactics to try and get women into bed.
I became obsessed with chasing validation from women. This isn’t who I wanted to be. Don’t get me wrong, I was getting me more results than I previously experienced (more than zero is an improvement), but I would frequently slip back into my old insecurities and anxiety and I still didn’t have the level of self-confidence or success that I craved. Worse still, I was still getting rejected by the girls I really wanted. It was like they could sense I wasn’t the real deal, and they would even sometimes call me out on it asking “Are you a pickup artist?” Something had to change and fast!
This was when I discovered the concept of natural attraction. This is the concept that explains why you often see men who don’t possess the stereotypical (and inaccurate) attractive qualities of being rich, good looking, tall, in great shape etc. dating beautiful women. I started to realise that attraction was actually caused by the type of person you are and how people feel when they are with you as opposed to external possessions, aesthetics or manipulation. It’s what all guys who are naturally successful with women are doing without even realising they are doing it!
When I started implementing a mindset and strategy of natural attraction everything changed for me and it changed quickly! I became so much more confident and relaxed when meeting beautiful women. My mind activity dropped dramatically, I stopped second-guessing and analysing my every word and action and I could trust myself a lot more. As a consequence, my results skyrocketed. Women began to respond with increased interest and attraction and it almost seemed like I was doing less than ever before to make it happen. Natural attraction is truly the only way forward. So many of our Auckland clients who have previously experienced limited success using other approaches are now experiencing massive success using our Natural Attraction Blueprint training. Contact us to find out if The Natural Attraction Blueprint is right for you.
Mindset, Inner Game and NLP Coaching
You may have heard things before like:
- 80% of success comes down to mindset…or…
- Success is two parts mental, one part mechanical
If you ever feel nervous, anxious, don’t have the confidence you want, run out of stuff to say or become paralysed and take no action at all, then the chances are you haven’t yet worked on your mindset and beliefs. This is why the foundation of our natural attraction blueprint training at The Legends Academy is dealing with the inner conflicts, limiting-beliefs and self-sabotage that plague so many men.
Hundreds of our satisfied clients were only able to shift into their most confident selves once we removed and re-coded their limiting-beliefs and self-sabotage and replaced it with proven strategies of how to use their psychology to create the experience they want.
We do this using a variety of strategies ranging from NLP (neuro linguistic programming) coaching through to teaching practical psychology and strategies so clients become empowered with the tools they need to take control of their own minds and move forward to their success.
Co Founder & CEO of The Legends Academy